Maid Of Honor Dos And Dont's
The wedding maid of honor has a host of duties and responsibilities, from the bridal shower to the maid of honor toast. She is the bride's right-hand girl.
Unless you are akin to Katherine Heigl's character in the movie 27 Dresses and are a true example of one who is "always a bridesmaid, never a bride," the role of maid of honor can seem like a daunting task. There are a lot of dos and don'ts for being the bride's right-hand woman. But, with the right amount of effort, you can make the bride's journey to matrimony a piece of 3-tier, elaborately decorated cake.
Tips for Fulfilling Your Maid of Honor Responsibilities
DO be ready to help the bride shop for her wedding dress as well as the bridesmaid dresses.
DON'T complain about having to pay for your own dress and accessories. It's customary that you will be asked to cover the bill for these things. If budget is an issue for you, tell the bride before you agree to be in the bridal party.
DO offer as much support and words of encouragement to the bride as possible, both leading up to and during the wedding.
DON'T be unnerved if the bride asks you to help stuff envelopes, set up for the dress rehearsal, or help her with the seating chart. Be ready to help the bride fix her makeup or to grab her a glass of water prior to the ceremony. It's part of your job to make sure she stays happy. That's why she chose you as her maid of honor.
DO remember that even if the bride starts to become a bit of a "bridezilla," this day is still about her. Try to keep her calm. She is probably just anxious.
DON'T personalize times when the bride gets testy. Even if it seems like it, her behavior is not about you. Weddings are a lot of work and, therefore, can cause a lot of stress. You will not decrease her tension by getting irritated with her.
DO expect to be responsible for planning and paying for the bridal shower. This is one of many maid of honor responsibilities.
DON'T be solely responsible for planning and paying for the bachelorette party. This should be a joint effort between all bridesmaids.
DO help the bride get into her gown before the ceremony.
DON'T let her makeup get on the dress or snag her hair.
DO put the groom's ring on your thumb for safekeeping should you be asked to hold onto it for the ceremony.
DON'T take the ring off your thumb once you have it in your possession. You'll be horrified (and so will the bride) if you don't have it when it's time for the bride and groom's vows.
DO hold the bride's flowers while the couple exchange vows.
DON'T make the bride have to remember to pass you her bouquet. She'll be nervous enough. Gesture for her to hand it to you after she has been given away by her family to stand next to her groom.
DO adjust the bride's train during the ceremony as needed.
DON'T give the audience a peep show or step on her train when you do this! Make sure to squat down, don't bend over, and be cautious of her gown.
DO help the bride bustle her gown after the ceremony.
DON'T bustle her gown until you've washed your hands carefully.
DO come to the wedding prepared to give a maid of honor toast at the reception.
DON'T give one of those maid of honor speeches that contain inside jokes, vulgarity, or embarrassing details. This is tacky. Remember, grandma is in the audience.
DO have a great time at the wedding and help to get the party started.
DON'T be a bridesmaid who gets drunk and starts making out with one of the groomsmen on the dance floor or acts inappropriately in any other way. Your friend chose you to represent her at her wedding. Don't embarrass her.
DO help clean up after the reception if needed.
DON'T leave the reception before the party is over. Stay until the bride and groom have departed, and you have offered your assistance with any remaining tasks.